The spanking party’s are great because you never know whats going to happen or who you’re going to meet. You don’t even have to play if you don’t want to, you can sit and chat or watch and no-one will think any less of you. Everyone is really friendly at the party and even if you havent been to a party before you soon feel like party of the group.
Why am I talking about spanking party’s I hear you ask. Well, in the past I have spoken about parties I have been to and what I got up to but I have never really spoken about the basic mechanics of the party’s. A gross oversight on my part and I do most humbly beg your pardon lol.
So, at the party’s the organiser is usually the person you would go to should there be any questions or problems. Or one of his/her minions lol, who will jump to sort it out.
As a newbie, I went to a party with Uncle Phil. I didn’t have a clue about the nuts and bolts of parties so I probably made a ton of mistakes but I wasn’t pulled up at all lol.
If you are alone & going to a party for the first time, I strongly suggest that you speak to the Organiser when you arrive. They will be able to give you lots of suggestions and probably suggest someone to hang out with you. If you are a sub/spankee/bottom then you should defiantly do this.
While most at party’s know how to behave there are still some predators out there. I am talking about the ones who only see an arse not a person. These people are dangerous because some of them do not know when to stop and some do not even respect safe words. There are even those that will grope!
If someone wants to play with you or you them it is courteous to ask. Grab and drag is simply not allowed. If a bottom/sub/spankee says no, they mean no! This should be respected at all times.
If a sub/spankee/bottom is there with a partner it is courtesy to ask the partner first if they may play. This shows respect for all party’s and will serve you well.
If you don’t want to play with someone don’t brat them or wind them up, it’s not fair and very annoying!
Before playing with someone who you have not played with before, always agree on a safeword. I can’t stress this enough, safewords are very important. Neither of you knows the others limits and or boundaries so having a safeword is paramount. The most commonly used one is the traffic light system. Green = more or harder etc. Amber = slow down, softer, pause. Red = stop! If you use words like STOP, NO, DON’T they will most likely be ignored, not out of rudeness but because those are words that are very common when being spanked.
You can ask to see the implements before hand. A lot of people have a fear of certain implements and don’t like them used. Don’t be afraid of saying “I don’t want to use that one.” you maybe asked why and it is your choice whether to answer or not. I won’t let anyone use a hairbrush on me because of something that happened to me as a child. I make sure I let the Top/Spanker/Dom etc know that. I am at the party to have fun, not to be bothered by old memories.
If you are a little modest you can wear a thong under your panties/knickers. It is accepted and certainly leaves enough of the skin for the person to spank. I would suggest that you tell them before hand if you want them to leave your thong on or even if you want to keep your panties/knickers on. You are there to have fun, not to be bullied into something that you are not comfortable with.
If you or someone that wants to play with you is tipsy or drunk DO NOT PLAY! Strokes can be missed, mistake are made, people can get hurt.
Above all, the party’s are a fun and safe place to play.
BE SENSIBLE, BE SAFE, HAVE FUN!
Here endeth the lesson.